קידושין יח

Rabbi Yehoshua Kurland tells the story of a חופה that was about to begin and the חתן was nowhere to be found. After much searching, a friend found him in a בית מדרש learning מסכת כתובות with aמסכת קידושין beside him. “Everyone is waiting for you. The חופה is about to start,” he was told. “I’m sorry,” the חתן said, “but I have a מנהג that whenever I’m about to do a מצוה for the first time, I review the relevant מסכתות. What can I do? A הנהגה טובה may have the דין of a נדר. I can’t break a נדר!” His friend answered: “But had you known that your practice would cause your כלה and all the guests to wait, would you have done it anyways? Perhaps based on that leniency, you can be מתיר the נדר.” “You’re right!” the חתן replied. “Bring me a מסכת נדרים!”

06/10/2021